| The shrieking starts when a child feels shortchanged | | | | they have to pay for the consequence of their actions. |
| or beaten to the child's rocking horse or PlayStation | | | | Rules over name calling, the use of remote control, |
| game. Before going on a rampage yourself, take a | | | | child's rocking horse, and other prized possessions |
| deep breath and look at the big picture.Intense sibling | | | | should be enforced consistently. * Hold family meetings |
| rivalry, if not handled properly, can be an incurable wart | | | | and let the kids join in the resolution of issues. They'll be |
| in your children's adult lives. Sibling Rivalry If you have | | | | more cooperative knowing they had a say in solution |
| only one kid, you don't have to endure the headaches | | | | of the problem. * Active participation of both parents in |
| induced by squabbling children. The fights over who | | | | the resolution of conflict and the consistency of their |
| gets the bigger slice of the pie, who takes the child's | | | | participation is a must. * Insist on no-name callings and |
| rocking horse to the porch, or gets the chance to go | | | | physical harm. Getting Things Sorted Out Sibling rivalry |
| with mom to the green grocers are trivial, but beware | | | | extends to the child's gender. If a boy feels that it is |
| of smoldering resentments if you handle the situation | | | | unfair for his dad to be lenient with a sister or if a sister |
| inappropriately. Sibling rivalry is natural. The fighting | | | | feels that dad does not care enough to bring her along |
| between brothers and sisters is always triggered by | | | | those fishing jaunts, there will be conflict. As parents, it |
| jealousy, competition, and parental favoritism. It may be | | | | is also very difficult to stay impartial. But that's the only |
| a simple argument over who gets what first. If you | | | | way you can foster happy and harmonious |
| had the budget, you'd immediately buy each of the | | | | relationships between your children. Providing them |
| children a PlayStation, child's rocking horse, or a bike in | | | | team activities in carrying out household chores, playing |
| the name of household peace and quiet. But what if | | | | with the child's rocking horse, computer, and train sets |
| you don't? In truth, the rivalry for toys is not about the | | | | can get them coordinating with each other. Here are |
| having the toy first. It's getting to the act first or simply | | | | some practical tips to get you by: * Do not compare |
| an annoying ploy to irritate a sibling further. The power | | | | siblings. * Do not be consistently angry with the kids. * |
| struggle in the pecking order can be balanced with | | | | Give them frequent reminders about the rules. * Set up |
| these tips: * Observe your children at play. The sneaky | | | | a schedule for play time and work time. * Organize |
| sibling will start the squabble by bullying another. Usually | | | | more fun activities for the entire family. * Always |
| the one who is crying his or her lungs out is the | | | | resolve issues and don't let anger fester overnight. * |
| aggrieved party. Instead of venting your ire on the child, | | | | Review your attitude about the situation. And next time |
| investigate the situation with an open mind. * Help the | | | | you shop, try getting another child's rocking horse, |
| children process their feelings. Talk to them and tell | | | | dollhouse, or scooter, but explain to them they'll have to |
| them you understand why the child feels sad, angry, or | | | | wait their turn with the toys and the stuff they |
| upset. By acknowledging their feelings, you help the | | | | frequently quarrel over. It'll keep sibling rivalry at bay. |
| child understand that these feelings are natural and can | | | | Get a child's rocking horse, unique kids' beds, and |
| be resolved. * Set up rules and consequences when | | | | children's table and chairs to complete your kids' |
| these are violated. When there are rules, it is easier to | | | | personal spaces. Visit today. |
| resolve conflict, and children will obey the rules knowing | | | | |